My struggle with body positivity
Disclaimer: This post is written in the full awareness that body positivity is for all women, and men, of all body shapes and sizes, big and small, short and tall. If you’re here to body shame anyone, please leave and read another post. Thank you!
Lately I’ve been having a love-hate relationship with fashion and style. There are days when picking out an outfit and wearing it bring me so much joy and make me feel like the old fashion-loving Audrey. Then there are those days when I dread getting dressed, when putting together an outfit is a painful affair.
I’ve been struggling with my weight for more than a year now. I’ve lost quite a bit of it and when it does come back, it lasts only a couple of weeks before it goes again. I know, I know, there are people struggling to lose weight for various reasons but I do know there are those of us who people call “lucky” who are facing a whole different problem.
How we look plays a big role in our self-confidence and body positivity not to mention how society views us. For me, I haven’t felt my best for a long time. I loved how I looked a few years ago. I loved my body and I had curated a wardrobe that reflected that. Now, while I appreciate that I’m at a healthy weight and I can do various activities without too much effort, I will admit that I haven’t been feeling too hot.
To get me through this, I’ve taken to doing the following to help me love the body I’m in now.
Declutter your wardrobe
Removing all the clothes that don’t fit anymore was one of the best things I did. It helped me worry a little less and it was now easier to get dressed in the morning since whatever was left in my closet were clothes that actually fit. It’s so distressing when you have to try on multiple outfits in the morning just to get the right one that fits. With a leaner more suitable closet, I started finding joy in getting dressed.
Refuse to listen to people commenting about your weight loss
Even though I knew that I had lost a lot of weight, it wasn’t until a friend of mine pointed it out from only looking at my photo that I became self-conscious. Then I started bringing it up whenever I’d meet friends or family just so that it was out there in the open. It was easier to do this than to wait for the questions that would inevitably come.
Then I started silencing anyone whose comments went in that direction. I simply told them to stop and asked if we could talk about something else.
These strategies somehow helped me not to overthink the weight loss since this would only make me worry more and add to the shedding of kilos.
Learn your new body
It took me actually standing in front of a mirror and looking at myself to learn to accept my new body. I paid attention to all the curves and bumps, noting down those that had reduced and those that were still there.
Then I started following people whose body resembled mine paying attention to how they dressed because for me, it took a little while for me to figure out what looked good on me now.
I also extended grace to myself, reminding myself of my vow to love me for who I am now, mind, body and soul. This took time and I’m still working on it but everyday it gets a little easier.
If you’re struggling with body positivity, remember that with a little self-love and self-care, you can fall in love with your body and actually start to enjoy it.
Have you been struggling with body positivity? How did you overcome the negative feelings?
Thank you for stopping by.
* You will receive a weekly newsletter from Inches To Style including most recent posts and videos, and musings on the latest happenings around the world.
Video: What I wore in a week
One of the things I promised myself I would do, ever since this pandemic started and life slowed down, is that I would dress up every single day. Granted, I had nowhere to go, but putting on an outfit, no matter how simple, uplifted my…