I turned the pain of rejection into zeal for a brighter future
No matter how old you are, it’s so difficult getting no for an answer. I’ve seen it with my daughter and had to experience it myself. Rejection, if not handled properly, can push you to the edge.
A letter of rejection from a prospective employer took me on a downward spiral. I had applied for the job and was feeling confident about my skills and past experience. The interview went well. I was more relaxed than usual, under such circumstances, but I’d prepared beforehand so I wasn’t too worried.
Although I had been unsure as to whether I would take the job if it was offered to me, the letter of regret still tore into me. My confidence levels were sinking to an all time low. I couldn’t help but recall all those times when I’d been rejected be it by a prospective employer or a lover. It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough, like I was a fraud and that I shouldn’t aim too high.
After a chat with a friend that I was reminded of how much I had accomplished as a career-woman and a single mum. Listening to all my achievements quickly dried my tears and helped me turn that rejection letter into a means to push harder towards my goals.
If you’ve ever found yourself in such a situation, here are three things to remember when you suffer a rejection.
It’s not the end of the world
That afternoon, after reading that email, my hopes for a brighter future were dashed. I felt like I wasn’t worthy of a breakthrough that’s why I didn’t get the job, no matter how much I needed it. But, when I calmed down, I realized that after every rejection I’d had in the past, life went on and most of the time it took me to an even better place.
Being rejected might feel like the end of the world but trust me, it isn’t. I can attest to that.
That no isn’t a reflection of your capabilities
I reread that email too many times, internalizing what had been said, asking myself why I had even bothered to apply for the position when I wasn’t as experienced as so many others clearly were. However, my friend pointed out how good I was as a professional and how impressed they were that I had done so much, most of it because I dared venture into a new field and had taught myself most of what I knew.
It’s so easy to forget how capable you are when someone tells you no. When you feel dejected like I did, remind yourself or better yet, have a friend who will remind you, of everything you have accomplished. Sit down and look at your CV and remind yourself of the skills you have acquired over time. This will help you keep your focus on the positive.
Use the rejection to propel you to an even brighter future
Don’t let one no put you down. Honey, you have so much more to accomplish and that job or that person wasn’t a part of your destiny. Look at this as an opportunity to move to your next phase in life or like Dr Patricia Murugami says, to “your next best self”.
After I recovered from the shock and disappointment of the rejection, I decided to use the feedback I had been given and the questions I had been asked at the interview to sharpen my skills even more. I also decided to be more intentional about any jobs that I applied for going forward; to stick to work that resonated with my passions because it is here that I will be able to apply myself fully.
How have you handled rejection in the past?
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